Been there , done that, have the t -shirt. I hope you go to Alanon, call the child's father, don't give her money, and stay in the house if it is yours. In my opinion methodone is just changing seats on the Titanic. There is help and wisdom here. You are not alone. Yes, you do feel like you are going insane. I lost 25lbs. worrying about my XAH when he was in jail. He got out and used! I was addicted to him. My self-esteem was so bad I didn't know he was bad for me. I left. I read everything about codependence and abuse. I finally got the focus on me. I could not live in the chaos and crazies anymore. They have to quack at you to take the focus off them. It's bull----. You are not alone.......we are all one. Peace on Earth and in our homes! Sending everyone an angel......^i^......