My XAH will try to hook me to feel bad for him which by the grace of God does not work anymore. I now recognize the hooks. He used to use sex,guilt, telling me he was out of tp or petfood.......he was hurt...he's snowed in and can't get to the store on his scooter (no liscence).. HOOKS. ..........don't work anymore. God will take care of him......and ME!