Assuming we are spiritually fit? Well, progress, but not perfection. Bill W., I guess, loved the ladies and acted out.... but he remained spiritually fit enough to stay sober... personally I don't get it, how could that be?..... But that's where your question becomes somewhat subjective. So we all have our own code of ethics... when I break mine I get mighty uncomfortable and my spiritual fitness suffers greatly.
I have a much higher tolerance of a man who may share his observations of a beautiful woman with me, as long as they do not threaten her dignity, in my eyes or hers, than of a racial epithet... for which I have zero tolerance.... but others may have other set points...
Your examples are real world and for that reason, difficult.
So, I stuck my neck a little, uh?