My wife has her one or two white wine spritzers every night just before bed. I am immune to it now, but it was a journey in and of itself... A good, current first step is requisite. It seems you are getting there. But that was only part of the journey for me. I had a resentment over it for a while, eventually I was able to deal with that too.
I still don't sit right next to her though...
Mark