I'm an RA (recovering addict) as well as a codie. I agree that you need to take care of you, as she is going to do what she's going to do.
Like ((Teke)), my family allowed me to hit my bottom and find my way back up...I will forever be grateful to them. I'm also grateful that they went on with their lives - it gave me something to want to be a part of, once I got into recovery.
I know it's hard..I don't have an addict daughter, but I do have loved ones who are addicts. I can tell you that there was nothing anyone said or did to make me quit, other than step away and let me face the consequences of my using.
Hugs and prayers!!
Amy