I did a lot of domestic law research on my own browsing my States web sites.
Try not to use your lawyer like a therapist, they'll let you sit and yak about your troubles at $300/hr all day long.
Take written prepared questions and write the answers.
Get educated about the immigration issues. Could it be as simple as having your H deported?
I could have filed for sole use of the marital home, but that might have been a tough sell to get a judge to grant it.