I needed outside help. I was fortunate to have met a recovery counselor who was licensed in alcohol and addiction. I was treated for several months under his care and the care of a doctor. I would not diagnose anyone with 'alcoholism'...and I certainly couldn't diagnose myself. I am so fortunate to have met my counselor because he helped me find a balance in the fellowship of AA and to live my life again without depending entirely upon the meetings.
When I meet someone struggling with that very dilema, I help them find a LADC or a LCSW MSW, which are primarly licensed clinical social workers who are also in recovery.
I hope this helps.