I hope this means that things will change, but I'll believe it when I see it.
Waiting around for another person to change drives me CUCKOO!
He does not need to change at all for "things to change." Are you working a serious program for yourself? From your posts you seem very very focused on him and his moods and his struggles....I know it is very hard and whether they are drinking or sobering up an alcoholic will tend to suck up all the air/energy in a room and get all the attention. However if you read up about alcoholism you will see that this continued dynamic of you being focused on him is actually contributing to his illness! Hard to believe but true. It's not like the flu where a week of TLC and chicken soup will get an A on the road to health. Alcoholism is a formidable and cunning foe. It will even wrap its tentacles around you and make you complicit in its destruction unless you really work a program to keep yourself focused on your own life and leave him entirely to his own battle with the bottle. Entirely.
It's not easy but it is worth it and is vital to safeguarding your mental health and ability to make clear decisions about your own life...
Have you checked out the stickies at the top of the first page of this forum? Esp the Classic Reading sction?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-reading.html
good luck -- keep posting! AlAnon helped me turn my head around and make the changes in
me, and that has made all the difference in the world!
peace-
b