Originally Posted by
cece1960 
I've had to come to the painful realization that he does what he does because he's an addict. I first thought acceptance was admittance, but after time learned that I had to accept addictive behaviors and not let it blind-side me when he did things that addicts do (like relapse, make poor decisions, lie etc) It doesn't paint a prettier picture, but it does allow me to not get my expectations too high, which will often lead to disappointment.
(((Hugs)))
That's what I do...I get my expectations to high and then it is so disappointing. I don't think I expect much really...be self-supporting and not a sloppy drugged up mess...not much at all, but he can never seem to do that for long. When he is clean he is just the best, it is those 'good' times that make this so hard to bear