((Kindeyes)) Just remember, sweetie, he could tell his son, HIMSELF, he loves him; he could be a part of his son's life. It sounds like he's NOT because of his bad choices?
I'm going through something similar with my stepmom, though not as bad, and I can't go no contact as I live with her and dad. I simply keep reminding her that her actions lead to her consequences. Most days, lately, I sound like a broken record.
You may want to try a trick I learned from Japic05 - instead of having his NAME listed in your phone, put it in as something like "his choice" so that is what shows up every time he texts you..just as a little reminder?
I know it hurts, but I truly believe you are doing the right thing for both of you...this coming from the recovering addict and recovering codie
Big hugs and prayers to you!!
Amy