Hi adgirl
well you've just 'met' several thousand new people LOL
I guess the obvious thing is to suggest you check out a face to face recovery group like AA, or SMART or LifeRing...I'm pretty sure NYC would have lots more groups too, perhaps even some thirtysomething oriented groups.
I'm not in the US nor especially young so my suggestions will be a little generic - but hopefully others will be along shortly
Welcome to SR
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