Livinglifefully
Thx to smacked who turned me on to this site in my book request thread. I have found some real inspiring stuff there. And todays is so spot on for me. Not so much as envying others for what they have and what I dont. But for judging others for the way they may deal with life differently than I do.
Meaning I have been strugglin with my anger alot lately. And its because I have taken on alot of my cousins BS as my own. And I am just so sick with it and frustrated with the whole situaiton I cant stand it anymore.
I cant judge her I guess for how she deals with things. I am more strait forward and aggressive. She is far from that. Which is why I get so angry because she has let someone totally disrespect her and treat her like **** and thinks its her fault. And I want to slap the crap out of her. But its her life not mine. But I will do whatever I have to to protect her.
Anyway..This is todays meditation...
Today's Quotation:
Believe all the good you can of everyone. Do not measure
others by yourself. If they have advantages which you
have not, let your liberality keep pace with their good
fortune. Envy no one, and you need envy no one.
William Hazlitt
Today's Meditation:
Sometimes we start to think that the way we think of others is somehow justified by their lot in life. After all, we're often surrounded by people who judge others based on their wealth, their lack of wealth, their good fortune, or their bad fortune. But the way we look at others usually is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves, how our own lives are going on the inside, where it truly counts. While believing negative things about others helps some people to justify or rationalize their own bad fortune or lack of success, when those beliefs are founded on untruths they tend to pull us down to levels that we really shouldn't be at if we want to be healthy in our spirits and our hearts.
Some people have been incredibly fortunate in life--let them be fortunate! Allow them their luck without envying them, and focus on improving yourself and your own life. If we all can work on the way we do things ourselves and not worry about what others do or how they do it, we'll all be much happier. If we look at our own lives realistically, we start to realize just how fortunate we are to have the things we have, but once we start to compare ourselves to those who have more, we start to lose the appreciation we could be feeling.
Life is for living, not for comparing. Envy keeps us trapped in the feeling that we're somehow lacking, when in truth we're not. Let's focus on what we have and realize that our lot in life is what we make it--we are not helpless victims of some sort of arbitrary decisions made by God or life. I have wealth in different forms than other people have wealth, and I hope that I always will appreciate all that I have without diminishing it by comparing it to what others have.
Questions to ponder:
1. Why do so many people spend so much time
comparing themselves to others?
2. What purpose do such comparisons serve?
3. How can we focus more strongly on our own good
fortune and less on the good fortune of others
that may seem better than our own?
For further thought:
Jealousy is based on a feeling of inadequacy and
a lack of self-worth. The best way to handle the
jealousy is to concentrate on loving yourself.
Louise L. Hay