Originally Posted by
mermaidgirl 
it seems that as long as he feels undeserving of anything good-including me (I'm really not THAT bad!) this cycle will never end.
Well of course. And you'll continue to be the "bad" person until something good happens to him and he accepts it as good. And at that point, he'll make it very clear that you had NOTHING to do with the good that happened to him
I've read it said a million times on here.....actions, not words (and don't fall for the tears either). I can't even count how many times xabf said he did something wrong only to turn around and do it again. He said a thousand times that he was wrong for a situation but he never really admitted it.
I know how exhausted you are. It's so hard trying to reason with the unreasonable.......no, two years of trying has proved me to that it's impossible.