I will take your advice - my husband is sober for just 2 weeks and has been leaning on me heavily up until yesterday. Now he wants space and is talking to other people who go to AA about the program. I too, am a good "codie" and actually feel left out - shouldn't I get to enjoy the recovery? I've certainly endured all the rest!
I've decided to back off and let him do his thing - if I don't and he fails, I will feel responsible. He started drinking long before I met him and he needs to do this on his own.
Thank you for the advice!!!!! So timely.