My wife seems to think she can do it on her own, yet she drinks everyday. She read a book "Rational Recovery" and she has everything under control. That is why I am here. Maybe some folks can do it own their own but I think this addiction is a wicked beast and that is exactly what it wants is for you to try to go it alone, you are weaker that way. I am at my wits end with "I don't need help". I feel selfish but I want to live again.