I love the idea of your list -- that really is excellent therapy. I did something similar once: I made a list of all the lies I was aware of (these were not small little white lies either) and there were 52 of them. We had been together for a year. One/week!!! that was an eye-opening experience.
As for the lawn equipment, is there a friend you can send instead? If not, ask him to leave them outside and you will pick them up at __ o'clock. Communicate by email or text so that you can think your responses through.
If it were me, I'd let the leaves rot for another couple of weeks at least...or borrow a neighbors.