I had to make a few judgement calls based on my gut feelings and how well I knew M and could predict her reactions. It came down to me managing my Lawyer to my tactics based on experience with M. But I had a bit bull on crack for a Lawyer. Your Lawyer wanting to show good faith is interesting, seeing how you are asking for full custody. I would think allowing him all this visitation in the interim would confuse a judge?
Do you think your H's reaction so far has been for show or is he really concerned about being pushed aside from his daughters life? I would guess that if it's for show he's all bark and no bite. You know him well enough to make that call.
I was not looking forward to having M served for fear of the backlash. It turned out to be no big deal. I think she was expecting it anyway.