Thank you for your repsonses everyone. I needed to hear them. I've gone back into the Word file I had previously created to document his repeated absences from home and have begun logging his behaviour and comments. Hopefully he keeps giving me ammo against him.
As for switching the daycare my daughter goes to, 1) I dont' want to do that because she loves her daycare and caregivers so much and 2) because there is no safeguard order in place yet, we still have joint legal custody which means I do not have the authority to make this change without his express permission. He knows this fact full well and would use it against me, so I'm "stuck" until the safeguard order is in place, hopefully within the next week or two.
Ugh, more eggshells...