How about investing in really cozy blankets and pillows?
Seriously, I can relate. My AH pushes me away both physically and emotionally unless he wants sex. Then he decides to turn on the charm and I always go back for more. Afterwards, we usually like each other for a little bit. We've been on this rollercoaster forever. I know it sounds pathetic and it is but I've been trying to make the best of a bad situation forever. I have my reasons.