I have thought alot about the blowing smoke thing lately for many reasons. Some go back to their old ways right away, some take their time but eventually end up there.
RAH did just that yesterday. We were having a conversation about his recovery, and as soon as the questions get tough, he retreated. Didn't want to talk anymore. Developed a headache and wanted me to drop him off at his house. I didn't hear from him again for the rest of the day.
Old ways are old ways. Habits are so hard to break. Alcoholism is just one habit, with many more companions - lying, not communicating, cheating, manipulating. Just because one habit changes does not mean they all change. The core person is still the same.
And it is the core person that you trust. And all the habits and companion habits play into that trust.
What are you willing to accept?