I'm glad the decision of where she was to go for the long-term vanc treatment was taken out of your hands. I have MRSA - got it when I was a nurse, before I became an A, and had to do the IV vanc treatment. I agree she needs to be somewhere that someone is taking care of her.
Sending my hugs and prayers for you, her, and the rest of the family - especially her daughter, who is blessed to have you!
Amy