Transform, sister, there are just some people who no matter what you say or do, they will always try to control you. My understanding of that, thru my own recovery work, is that the need to control grows out of fear.
You just keep doing what you know is right for you and if she has a problem with it, let her act like a fool. Don't buy into her stuff by getting angry. I know, easier said than done, because I have to put up with that $hit every day of my life. My boss tries to control me. It's like poking a caged cat with a stick.