Hey Veg! Me too as far as going out to eat. I could care if people have drinks then, but if its a party and there is a lot of attention to the alcohol then I'm uncomfortable.
My mom has already said she won't drink on Thanksgiving, but I know the wine will be poured by my mom's husband and his side of the family. It will be fine though. When I went to NY my dad and his wife had wine almost every night and my inlaws did every night. I really wasn't as bothered as I thought I would be. I noticed they have 1 to 2 drinks and stop. Me, I would have kept going and going and going until my batteries ran out. That's the reason "I" can't drink and they can.