First, welcome to SR. This is a great place to learn and focus on your own sobriety.
Originally Posted by
4ever 
For me there is no one day at a time. Its all or nothing.
I want to make sure that you understand what we generally mean when we say "one day at a time". I am an alcoholic and I can NEVER drink again. However, I don't have to get all stressed out about the fact that I can NEVER drink, all I have to worry about is "not drinking today".
Of course, I'll do the same thing tomorrow (e.g. focusing on not drinking for the day), but by only worrying about today, the stress doesn't become a problem for which alcohol is my solution.
So, for me, taking things "one day at a time" is not in any way incongruent with never drinking again.
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