Hey 4ever!! Welcome.
Yea, I have some experience with this.... My wife still drinks, but not alcoholically... But still, early on, it was damn hard when I heard those ice cubes clink in the glass as she made her white wine spritzer...
From what you wrote, he'll be showing up tonight with his case of beer. He's right, it shouldn't matter what he does...
But it does..., doesn't it, to you it matters. I know.
It would be nice if he'd quit, but I never did when my wife was pregnant 4 times (she did remind me of that
).... So don't plan on it..... I drank less then your husband, but it's not how much a person drinks, it's why and what happens...
Smacked has a good suggestion... SR is a great 24/7 place to come when you need some support.
A good program of recovery will help you find serenity. Do you have one?
Welcome...
Mark