Hey man!
Lots of opinions, but at the end of the day be aware that it is the shadow of your old behaviour creeping up on you through your partner's actions and you don't like it, plain and simple...because that is not what you want to be doing anymore and you don't like it.
As for the not having a leg to stand on crap, you chose to drink, she chose to stay and be part of that life, you are now choosing not to drink now she can choose to be part of that life...or not...simple as:-)