Hi Serene -- I'm so glad to hear that you are not giving up. Why not try a not women's only meeting? You have more of a chance of having an actual meeting. The meeting I went to last night I was the only woman, but they were incredibly welcoming. Definitely look around -- it is so worth it.
When I went to my first meeting I was really nervous. Felt strange and out of place. Second meeting, a little better and shared something for the first time, but was still very nervous. Third meeting, a lot less nervous but it was in a different place, so still a little nervous. Fourth meeting last night -- a LOT less nervous. A LOT easier. It won't take long until you're comfortable.
Keep coming back, as they say!