It is very easy for me to see why you are feeling overwhelmed. You must feel like the whole world is on your shoulders and everything is up to you to take care of. My shoulders actually started hurting because of the load I felt from my situtation. When he finally leaves and you have some time to breathe without all that crap going on you will start to see better days for you and your kids. They do look normal, mine did too but he was far from normal. My final divorce is in 3 weeks and I've been waiting on this day and it will be celebrated by me!! Everthing will happen in it's own time if you just feel worn out let things happen as they may. You only have control over yourself and your reactions. Take your power back and show him that STRONG WOMAN that you are. You and the kids will be in my prayers today.