The "Mediator" was our marriage councelor that became our mediator for separation.
We have no legal stuff in place. None. If I go to friend of the court they will give me substantially less out of every paycheck than he is giving me, and there will be a one month delay in the payments which I also cannot afford to do right now as I am living literally hand to mouth, paycheck to paycheck.
That may be difficult for some of you to understand but it is my reality and one i need to deal with.
Yes, we've established that I'm enabling. Now I need to sort out how to stop doing it.
Now, how do I NOT give him the groceries I promised?
I can say, you are an adult you know how to buy groceries, but I already told him (while enabling thank you very much) that I would give him some.
So is there any way to "change my mind."
Also, he said he can't afford to pay for the kids session today with the mediator who is also their councelor. I could go to see her myself today, talk to her myself, but I don't have the $40 to see her either..