As it relates to this situation......I am not hearing that the daughter thinks she has a problem or wants recovery. I sense a mother who loves her daughter more than anything and will do whatever it takes to get her help.
I read of a mother and boyfriend who have made this young woman's poor choices their priority and are battling the beast.
Back when, I was consumed with curing my daughter of her addiction. I thought if I threw enough of my time, money, energy and oh yeah, willpower into it, I could beat it. It was a full out assault on the demon who had never messed with a mama, like me. This was far more about me and my belief, at the time, that I called the shots and controlled the outcomes.
What I learned was I have absolutely no control over my daughter, or anyone else for that matter. It's a full time job for me to control what I can, my choices and reactions. I was and remain humbled by this lesson.