Hi 1971
Welcome to SR - if fact you're welcome just about anywhere
but the forum least mentioned will be full of people dealing with a similar situation to yours. Please do check it out.
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
(I see you did
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I hope you keep going to AlAnon - those 3Cs ('we didn't cause it, can't cure it, and can't control it') are pretty good reminders to keep in mind
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