Your post about your daughter has given me hope for my AAH who DOC is heroin. I've also had to back away from him almost completely, leaving any contact up to him to make.
I was really doubting the wisdom of my decision to back away and leave the contact completely up to him, but after reading your post, I think I am better able to just stay on track. Maybe like Ann said he will realize he has to sink or swim, because I'm not giving him "water wings" anymore. I hope he swims!
I am so glad for you and your daughter! Thank you for the hope you have given the rest of us out here!