WELCOME to Sober Recovery. You have found a great place with lots of Experience, Strength and Hope (ES&H).
I would like to suggest that you check out our Friends and Family of Substance Abusers forum:
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I am in recovery for a long time now, continuous from both alcohol and drugs. I am also in recovery for almost as long from being co-dependent.
I am not offended by what you have posted and your FRUSTRATION is coming through loud and clear. I would suggest that you might get some counseling for yourself and/or try some Al-Anon or Naranon meetings for you. I suggest Al-Anon because in many areas they are plentiful than Naranon meetings. These are for friends and family. These help us deal with our frustrations and co-dependent issues whether we are the spouse, significant other, child, parent, friend or just roommate of someone with addiction problems. I believe they could be very helpful to you.
Please check out the F&F forum.
Hope that helps a bit.
Please keep posting and let us know how YOU are doing as we do care very much.
Love and hugs,