RedTail,
Do things for you... it's great that you have had the strength to leave him and stick by it I applaud you. I froze a lot of my cooked turkey for "lazy days" when I wanted to have a home cooked meal, without the hours and hours wasted in the stove, lol. If your friends are mad at you, so what? It's not their life you're living it's yours! But... you have to do what you feel is right for you. Maybe one of your friends are struggling financially and you could be a mystery Santa for them if you don't have anyone to buy for? Just some thoughts