My daughter was being honest about how she was feeling and letting him know the reason she was not as quick as she has been previously. His reaction is telling her that it is not okay to be honest or you will be subjecting yourself to a putdown. I was glad she was able to recognize and express that she was tired. Invalidating someone's feelings is inappropriate and abusive. I asked about NA because I thought that was the behavior that was done to him while he was growing up.