Personally, I have been going against he grain for most of my life. It's never really caused a problem for me because I have chosen not to make it an issue. I am of the attitude of whatever works for each individual to make them feel happy/fulfilled/content. I make decisions for myself and my family based on what works best for us, and if someone chooses to do things a different way, that's their right. If people don't approve of things I do, their entitled to their opinion. There is not, in my opinion, one "society" that dictates to us what we should be/think/do. There are some voices in this world that are louder than others, and it can cause the quiet voices to feel a bit underappreciated sometimes, but I have found that by seeking out situations which suit me and my beliefs, I tend to encounter many like minded individuals.
~Daisy