I am in a similar situation right now but it's with my 7 year old daughter and she is nothing but vocal about how her dad's drinking makes her uncomfortable. My husband is being forced to look at his actions and how they affect his children. Unfortunately for me he is not taking the road he needs to in order to avoid losing his family and you may be faced with that at some point. Then you will need to decide what YOU are going to do for YOU.
Yep, I'm right there with ya. When my kids (ages 8 and 11) started vocalizing how their dads drinking makes them feel-and it was met with typical denial and blameshifting-that was it. I"m glad your daughter can and does articulate how she feels.