took me about 2 months before I was able to start coherently trying to figure out how to deal with feelings sober. I did a ton of reading through self help/recovery books, some of them AA based, some of them spiritual in nature, some not.
I learned on these forums and in these books about how to accept emotions, honor my feelings, and deal with stuff sober.
After about 4 months an amazing thing happened. I started enjoying experiencing these feelings I had numbed so long, even the painful ones.
Do work. Explore some recovery paths. Take advice from people who have beat this and are happy. And be patient with yourself while you heal.