Ugh...I'm sorry Trying2, really am. I identify with your situation completely.
It's difficult I know because you "do" want to be loved by a parent unconditionally as we think it should be, but unfortunately, some mothers are incapable as they are emotionally children themselves.
As Freedom mentions, I learned to parent myself and embrace the little girl deep within me. It IS possible. I learned that I am a much better Mother to myself than my Mother ever was, or is/was capable of ever being.
I'm sorry Trying2. Be the best Mom to yourself. What would you say to little Trying2 when she comes home crying explaining to Mom trying2 what just happened. Mom T2 would probably validate your hurt speaking softly, tell you that you have done nothing wrong and that you are sweet little girl that many people love and appreciate in their lives.