I can just imagine the pain your husband is towards of life.
He needs to be that his life is essentially unmanageble and he is going to die. He is wreckage to others and cause lots of damage.
You have to tell them that there is a program that offers peace of mind and hope. Hope to live life on life terms. To end the head trip in his head. That offers calmness among swelling sea of pressure. He just needs to quit drinking and you need to state that the golden road is ahead of. It takes a massive amount of work, but your life will be transformed. You will have people that will love unconditionally for the person that you are, You will find support like no other.
And his life can be become manageable again and he can be father to his family. He needs a strict sponsor and a life coach to work the golden road of life.
This program does work because I have seen too many examples. The odds are overwhelming but it can be done.
And if AA does not work, there is SMART Recovery (http:\\
SMART RecoveryŽ|Self Help for Alcoholism Drug & Other Addiction) and LifeRing (http:\\
LifeRing Home Page
I hope you the Universe will bless you.