Originally Posted by
freya 
...fundamentally coming down to the issue that it's just too likely to lead to awkwardness and other problems/complications if one finds oneself sexually attracted to the person upon whom one relies most heavily for program guidance and support. And who, especially in early recovery, needs more awkwardness and problems and complications????
So, find somebody who has what you want -- in terms of program, not sex-appeal -- and ask him/her to be a temporary sponsor, and, then, just trust your HP and see what happens. freya
Couldn't have said it better.
FWIW my girlfriend had a male sponsee who was gay. The combination seemed to work until he, like a lot of us in early (and not so early) recovery, stopped coming by, stopped going to meetings (at least the ones we were seeing him at), stopped calling, stopped returning phone calls and eventually disappeared.