I told her the other day after her affair I took her back on one condition. Complete honesty. That was my final straw. She would lie to me when I asked if she had been drinking. She said she did it because she couldn't stand to see me disappointed.
Bottom line I told her is you loved your bottle more than me. I gave you a chance when everyone yelled that I shouldn't. I did it out of love and I worked to build that love. You, just drank because you loved vodka more than the idea of being married to me. She said that wasn't fair. I told her it was. Reality check time and she needs to look in the mirror.
It's so nice not worrying about "poking the bear" any more. Now I can say what I want and not fear the ramifications.
Life is grand!