Well, in one way I disagree with OTL. We have given the creditors the forwarding information for my fiance's AS because they were beginning to hound us. I would not stand for having to live through that sort of harrassment because of the future A step son's actions.
But I do agree, there is really nothing you can do to control the actions of your mother and you will bring more pain and grief to yourself if you try. I'm sorry that this is all so maddening and painful for you and hope that you find some peace with it all soon.
Hugs and prayers,
HG