OK, so you screwed up, the wife knows about it and there's ice in the air at home. OK, now what do you do? Maybe it's time to really get serious about tossing in the towel and asking for help in turning things around, and establish a network to help you stay on track once you are. Doing something about your problem will prove more to your wife than a thousand I Love Yous ever could. Hey, but the I Love Yous help too, so spend a few of those, you only have so many till they're all gone, unless you replenish the supply with action.