Daisywings, I can't offer any advice, because it never worked for me. I wasted a decade of my life trying to moderate drinking. At some point my body clicks over from 1-2 drinks, to never enough.
I don't think identifying triggers will work. Your ability to change states of mind is lost after a few drinks. I worked with a hypnotherapist once and she explained to me that it almost impossible to hypnotize a person after a couple of drinks. It is like you cannot get the brain's attention away from the buzz.