Daisywings, the evening time is toughest for me, too, given the kids/school/eating/bedtime routine. It's a drag. Made it through last night just fine, although I couldn't see any noticeable benefits to being sober. I was just edgy and cranky and yelling a lot. I guess in order for it to get better, I've got to find a way to deal with it and make things easier, rather than numbing it and riding it out.
I'm thinking of giving the kids more responsibility, so it's not all falling on me to do. They love it when we cook together (although I hate cooking) so maybe I'll start asking one to make a salad and one to ... I dunno. Gotta come up with something so they're occupied, helping out, and not pestering me.
Try taking it one day at a time. Did the wine really help you last night? What benefits did it give you? And what negatives came from it?