I honestly do not think anything "bad" will come out of this. Like Bernadette I to plan on embracing it. I will do what is best for my kids. I have no anger towards my ex anymore. It takes to much effort. It's the change that I don't like.
As I think more about it I will cross the bridge when I get there.
My kids are 19,10 and 7 I have full custody of them, he has no visitation according to the divorce, When he was here he was not sobber so I would meet him at the park with the kids, let them do there thing while I was reading on the bench.
This is how I will start things again, slowly and I will be right there.
I don't care that he has a girlfriend, I don't want him any more, hell I have not been this happy in so long.
If and when he gets back to CA I will do what is best for the kids.
But it still makes me nervous!!!