I'm going to look up emotional incest too, Dothi. My mom was just like 03fifteen's (and yours) and I was her wailing wall since I knew how to listen. I've never heard that term but I'm intrigued.
03fifteen, you're doing the right thing in focusing on yourself and taking care of you. Therapy is a good option if you can work it out, but living at home that might pose a problem (paying for it, getting there etc.) What do you think you parents would say if you told them you wanted to see a counselor? Have you thought about it?
Hugs