Welcome to SR...
Sorry to know the two of you are having problems.
Several members mentioned the Friends & Family Forum
you can find info there from those dealing with your situation.
Here is the link
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Reading the book "Co Dependant No More" by M. Beattie
is also helpful to many who love drinkers.
Best of luck