Originally Posted by
dothi 
I don't know if this will apply to you, but I found reading about emotional incest very insightful into the relationship I had with my parents (more my dad than my mom). It hits bang-on the complete one-sided failure of boundaries between dysfunctional parents and their children.
I looked up emotional incest. it does seem to fit the relationship between me and my mom. she probably chose me because i've always been "the listener". My only other sibling is my twin sister. And she works all the time. So i was the choice. I guess. I'm sure what didn't help my case is that i'm very empathetic. Anyway. Thank you very much Dothi for the comment. i will hopefully post more soon.